As we grow up, we ought to grow out of some old, bad habits. Right? If silence hasn’t worked in the past five relationships, it’s time to speak up. If letting someone else take the credit means you got passed over for another promotion, it’s time to speak up. And if you truly believe that if you love something, you set it free and it will return to you. You are probably alone. Moving ahead in life is work. Maturing into a wiser person is work. Friendship is constant work. And making love last is the hardest work of all. Real talk: Iyanla can’t fix your life if you won’t do the maintenance.